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Humility Means No Resistance

Monday, 26 August 2019 / Published in Articles / 5,800 views

By Mahatma Das

Humility Means No Resistance

The third verse of the Siksastakam is trnad api sunicena – “one should be humbler than a blade of grass.” You may wonder, “How can I be humbler than a blade of grass?” Let’s look at one way this is possible.

May you always think of Krsna.

Mahatma Das

Do Not Resist

Bhaktivinoda Thakura explains that grass doesn’t resist when it is walked on or thrown around. It doesn’t complain or scream out, “How dare you step on me or throw me here and there?!” As we say in California, “It goes with the flow.”

If you are like me – or for that matter everyone I’ve ever met – you are resistant to negative things that happen to you. When others tell you what they don’t like about you, point out a mistake you made, criticize you, etc., you probably get defensive. We are wired to react this way. We want to be loved, not evaluated.

Give Me Some Respect

Dale Carnegie said the desire to be appreciated is one of our greatest needs. It seems to me like it’s right up there with eating, sleeping, mating and defending. Tell someone how great they are and even if they know you are exaggerating, they’ll still eat it up. We are hungry for appreciation and respect.

Lord Caitanya says amanina, mana-dena, one should offer ALL respect to others and should not demand or seek respect for himself. When your peers do better than you, are you happy? Do you appreciate what they’ve done or do you feel concerned or upset that you are not getting as much attention as they are? Do you sometimes not even acknowledge that they have, in fact, been successful (“Anyone could have done that. It’s no big deal”)? Do you seek more to be appreciated than to appreciate?

ARE YOU RESISTANT TO FULLY ACKNOWLEDGE AND APPRECIATE YOUR PEERS’ SUCCESSES AND GOOD QUALITIES?

If so, you are not alone. I suspect that when you do this it is because you want some (or all) of the honor and respect they get. I know that is why I do it. We are hungry for honor, respect, appreciation. The problem is that this is not a good diet for one who wants to be humble.

We say all glories to Srila Prabhupada or to our spiritual master. We might even say all glories to a god brother or god sister: “All glories to you, Prabhu.” When you say that it means all glories are for them and none are for you. Do you really mean that or are you thinking you’d like a few glories to come your way as well?

So it’s not difficult to see how you are doing in the humility department if you are just willing to look. Of course, it is possible that your ego can become so inflated that you can’t see what’s happening. But don’t worry. The rest of the world isn’t as blind as you. They can see it. And you can take advantage of this.

Afraid to Ask

How can you take advantage? Ask them what they see. But few of us ever ask such questions of our friends, family or co-workers. Why? There may be many reasons but the biggest is fear. We are afraid to ask for feedback because we are afraid of what we might hear! (Hey, that rhymes. Maybe I’ll write a song.)You may be thinking right now that I’d rather die than have to sit in front of a group of people that know me well and get feedback from them. If this is the case, it sounds like a bit of RESISTANCE is going on inside of you. And remember, humility means no resistance.

I find it interesting (and sad) that we can think of humility in many different ways without ever touching on the concept of RESISTANCE.

Have you ever asked your spouse how you are doing as a partner or asked your children how you are doing as a parent? Have you ever asked your friends for feedback about how you are doing in your service or sadhana? If you are a leader, have you ever asked the people under you how you could change your behavior in a way that would improve the effectiveness of your job?

Did it make you uneasy just to read these questions and think of having to do that? Might you have some RESISTANCE to doing these things? Might this be one of the most difficult things for you to do? If so, what does it mean? What beliefs do you have that make this difficult for you to do?

I have an image of myself. If I ask for feedback from those around me, I might find out that others don’t see me in the same glorious way that I see myself. And that could be painfully difficult for me to accept. So rather than confront that unpleasant reality, I prefer to remain in my own secure world of illusion and not ask others for that kind of reality check.

BUT THE TRUTH IS YOU CAN LEARN MORE FROM THOSE YOU ARE AFRAID TO ASK THAN FROM ANYWHERE ELSE.

It requires a lot of humility (and courage) to ask for important people’s opinions. But it is one of the best things you can do for yourself, your relationships, and your success.

The Blessing of Humility

If you muster up enough courage to ask for feedback, you might find it difficult to either listen to or fully acknowledge what is being said (what to speak of appreciate it). Think of this RESISTANCE as the enemy of humility. Appreciate that Krsna is providing a wonderful opportunity for you to develop more humility. It is a wonderful opportunity because the more you become humble, the more you become fortunate. Why?Because in a humble state of mind, one can chant the holy names of the Lord constantly.

So if getting feedback will help you become more humble, thus enabling you to chant better and chant more, it is a great blessing. And those who give you feedback are great blessings in your life.

SO LET’S ASK FOR FEEDBACK AND START GETTING BLESSED.

Exercise

Stop RESISTING. Start asking for feedback.

I might as well start first. How can I improve my service to you? How can I improve my seminars? How can I improve my newsletters? How can I improve myself?

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4 Responses to “Humility Means No Resistance”

  1. Yajnavalkya dasa says :

    I have also found that both anger and aggravation are, almost always, due to pride, the antithesis of humility. Even mundane things like getting annoyed at someone cutting in line or taking our parking space means we need to work on our pride.

    There are valid reasons for anger, but not over our bruised false ego.

  2. Yes. Bhurijan Prabhu once said tolerance is the essence of humility. The problem is we think the universe centers around us.

  3. Sita Rama dasa 1962 says :

    Mahatma Prabhu,
    I find all your statements helpful except the idea of asking people for feedback. I asked this question once and the person said I talk about myself a lot. But guess what, I am at it again.
    The false ego is the subtlest element, and if I am listening to people talk about me, my false ego is going to take center stage, whether the feedback is positive or negative. And down deep (or maybe not so deep) I will be proud of the fact that I am so advanced to take these steps to better myself.
    Benjamin Franklin went through the same dilemma. He had a list of virtues and made a calendar with days he would work on each one. He asked a friend for any suggestions. The friend told him he was not too humble. But Franklin found he could not work on this without becoming proud of his humility.
    Ontologically speaking, the mind is less subtle then the false ego so we cannot go beyond the false ego through the mental platform. The only solution for me is to try to get absorbed in glorifying Krishna and the awesome devotees in ISKCON- and the old methods of hearing chanting and serving comes in handy also. Until I get a second to reflect and then start patting myself on the back for being such a good devotee.
    Your HUMBLE servant,
    Paramadayala Nityananda das.

  4. Dhameshvara Mahaprabhu Dasa says :

    Humility means no resistance to Dale Carnegie lol

    Shrila Prabhupada says, "Humility means that one should not be anxious to have the satisfaction of being honored by others. The material conception of life makes us very eager to receive honor from others, but from the point of view of a man in perfect knowledge — who knows that he is not this body — anything, honor or dishonor, pertaining to this body is useless. One should not be hankering after this material deception. People are very anxious to be famous for their religion, and consequently sometimes it is found that without understanding the principles of religion one enters into some group which is not actually following religious principles and then wants to advertise himself as a religious mentor. As for actual advancement in spiritual science, one should have a test to see how far he is progressing. He can judge by these items."

    – Bhagavad-Gita As It Is 13.8-12 purport

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